Counselor’s Tips

HELP FROM PARENTS

It is helpful for all parents/guardians to understand that children learn how to socialize with others while at home. The lessons learned at home will often reflect in the student’s behavior while at school. Manners, respect of others, and honesty are three characteristics seen in students that usually excel in academics as well as developing positive relationships with teachers and peers. Parental support is needed with every student in order to help the child develop to his/her fullest academic as well as social potential.

Academic achievement of one’s child is highly desired among concerned parents. However, the social aspect of a child should not be considered as a need coming in second when compared to grades. A student’s behavior in the classroom will often influence the learning environment within a particular setting. Not only will the child who is engaging in negative behaviors experience the effects of lack of instruction, but the students contained within the same classroom may be distracted an unable to comprehend the current instruction provided by the teacher. Teachers who continuously have to correct a student’s behavior can not provide the quality of education that all students deserve. However, if a student is aware that negative consequences will follow negative behaviors, and this action is reinforced at home as well as the school, the frequency of maladaptive behaviors within the classroom will reduce.

Parental Tips for Promoting Positive Behavior Among Students While At School:

  1. Become involved with your child’s entire educational process. This can be accomplished by scheduling meetings with your child’s teachers and requesting periodical updates throughout the school year. Also, show your child that you are interested by becoming involved in the Parent Teacher Organization (PTO). You may contact the school for information regarding the PTO.
  2. Set goals for your child/children. These goals can consist of making a certain grade on a particular test, pulling up a class average by a set number of points, receiving a lower amount of office referrals, etc. Encourage your child on a daily basis to do their absolute best to reach their goal, and inform them that you are monitoring his/her progress.
  3. Once the goal has been obtained, reward the child for his/her accomplishment. Rewards can be as simple as making your child’s favorite dinner, allowing, him/her to skip out on chores for a couple of days, allowing him/her to rent their favorite movie, giving your child a special allowance, ice cream, a trip to the zoo, etc. In order for the reinforcer to be beneficial in increasing positive behavior, it must be something the child views as a desirable reward.
  4. It is extremely important for a parent to be consistent with discipline. Informing your child that negative behaviors at school and at home will not be tolerated and will result in negative consequences is essential for molding good behavior and altering negative behavior.

Schools will provide the highest quality of education once the parents, teachers, and students are in agreement of their roles and responsibilities.